ON COMING OUT (AS A BLOGGER)
It’s been just over a year since my very first blog post. When I first made the decision to start a blog, I was a bit (ok, a lot) shy about it. Everything associated with my blog – the name, the associated Twitter and Instagram accounts, and even the email account, were all under my alias “Bits of Bee”. With the exception of a few friends, no one knew that I was actively blogging, not even my parents.
It wasn’t until I was recognized as a Top 30 Vancouver Mom Blogger by Vancouver Mom that I allowed for my two worlds to merge. I had to give my name and a short blurb on who I was for the nominees page, and I knew this would be the turning point – that this would “out” me. I tried to be discreet about it. I hesitantly mentioned my nomination on Facebook, and tweeted only once or twice during the voting period, and I think my friends and family were a little confused – what’s a blog, and what does it have to do with Bianca?
Once my name was out, I decided to embrace it. I updated my “About Me” page with a little more personal information. I started to send links to my blog posts through my personal Facebook page. People started to ask me about it, and comment about my blog to me in person.
Then, and even now, I find it awkward to discuss my blog in person with coworkers, friends and family. I feel like my blog world is a completely separate world, where I don’t have to worry about talking out of turn, or minding what I say, or being judged for the words that come out of my mouth. I can write freely, and if people don’t want to read what I have to say, they don’t have to. I can nurture my love for writing without being judged, and I can do it on my own schedule, with my own parameters.
But I’ve also grown to love the engagement as well. Nothing thrills me more than to see that I’ve had new readers stumble upon my little blog. And I love discovering other blog moms with the same love for writing and photography and family as myself. This little blog community is welcoming, rewarding, and completely worth joining, and I am so thankful for all of the connections I’ve made in the process.
|Here I am, Bianca, the person behind Bits of Bee|
Now that I’m out, I’ve decided to make a few changes. I want to focus more on what people would be interested in reading about. I want to share ADVICE. QUOTES. ANECDOTES. I want to continue to weave in personal stories about my life as an adoptee, and to share photos and ideas of my journey through this wild and precious life I lead. I hope that you’ll stick with me, and share your thoughts and ideas as well.
Thank you to those of you who have followed me over the past year (and then some). And welcome to those of you who are reading my blog for the very first time.
For fun, I’ll leave you with some of my most popular posts:
On embracing your Mama’s Bits
Some thoughts on Why I Would Make A Kick Ass Cop
My experience with Discussing Adoption With My Five Year Old
And my question to you all: WTF Is A Wiggle?